I do a good job at playing the man; doesn't mean I want to be him

A post that might sound like I'm complaining- but I promise I'm not. Think of it more as a cross between a.) I'm tired. and b.) yes I am a strong, self-sufficient woman but you know what - it might be nice if I didn't always have to be.

So let's get into it.

The truth is, I'm good at taking care of things. And for the most part, I seem to always have it together. Does that mean that's the always the case? I'll let you answer that one.

Another Sunday night where the house has been cleaned, the errands have been run, and the bills have been paid. There is a scented candle lit on the coffee table after a weekend of catching up with friends, checking in on the girls, and making time for a nice, hot "everything shower". All of this in preparation before diving into another week of morning workouts, a full-time job, side hustles, & grocery store runs.

Sounds like we've got it all covered, right? Of course it does.

But the real secret is, keeping up with all of this gets exhausting. I am a very independent girly and proud to be, but that doesn't mean I want to be existing in this masculine energy all the time. I would actually prefer to NOT to exist in this energy. I enjoy my feminine side and always feel my best when I get to predominately tap into that.

This is what makes dating a challenge too. I, and other women I have talked to, are finding it hard to feel like we can let our guard down and really step into that feminine energy. I have gotten so good at taking care of things that I'm left... highly unimpressed... if I'm going out with a dude who can't handle the simplist responsibilites. (Did you forget how to ask any questions? Seriously why am I always the one carrying here?)

Gentlemen - a pro tip: the most attractive thing a man can do is let his girl be the girl (as it applies in heterosexual relationships). Respectfully, I don't want to be your mom. I really prefer an actual partner in life.

Some examples of things you could do that would be incredibly attractive to me:

-Help carry my grocery bags (I'm tired of seeing how few trips I can make from my car up two flights of stairs.)

-Help me go to the mechanic when my car breaks down (this happens about every summer.)

-Lifting furniture (I'm really into making my home cozy lately, but it's a struggle to get things in & out.)

-Cooking me dinner (Taking two nights of cooking off my hands? .. pls.. I'd cry.)

-Driving (seriously I'm tired of driving myself everywhere. The desire to be a passenger princess is real.)

Even at the gym, my masculine energy is at its peak. I've often been told I look "really intense" and "unapproachable". I do not mean to look that way, nor do I want to feel that way. But idk, something about being surrounded by dudes lifting heavy weights makes me feel like I have to put up this tough front of either "leave me alone" or "I can do anything you can do". And like can I just chill? That one's on me honestly.

Overall, all I'm describing here is the soft girl life. On a personal level, the pendulum has swung too far on the tough, rigid side of things. Quite frankly I'm ready to put on a pretty dress, have someone take my hand, and lead the way for sec. (As long as he knows I can do anthing he can do.)